Toxic Language and How It Hinders Your Writing
There is an icky, creepy bug that may be surrounding your daily life, seeping into everything you do. Without you even realizing it. That bug is toxic language. And once it gets a hold of you, it slowly begins to destroy, attacking your confidence, your outlook and your writing.
What Is Toxic Language?
Toxic language is anything negative that you tell yourself, especially when it comes to your writing. It’s words like “can’t” and “should” and phrases like “have to” that make up the toxicity. Words like these take your power away.
When you use toxic language all the time, you are programming yourself to believe it (even subconsciously) and that will start to take a toll on your self esteem.
Using language like this allows the words to control you, instead of you controlling the words.
The Toxic Words That Make Up the Language
There are many toxic words that make up the negative phrases you tell yourself. Here are some to look out for:
Breaking Down the Toxic Phrases
The toxic words mentioned above make up the negative phrases you tell yourself. Here’s a breakdown of why these phrases are toxic:
- Saying “can’t” kills off all possibilities. The word “can’t” limits you and holds you back.
- When you tell yourself you “should” do something or you “have to” do something, you feel pressured to do it. You feel like you don’t have a choice. And that makes you not want to do it.
- Same thing with telling yourself you “have to” do something. It makes you want to avoid it.
- Impossible is another possibility killer.
- And “need to” causes avoidance because you feel like you don’t have a choice.
The truth is, you do have a choice. It’s your choice to write or not write. And when you start looking at it from that angle, you’ll start to see all the possibilities that exist for you. No more feeling guilty.
Changing the Negative to Positive
These negative phrases do nothing but hold you back and limit you. But you can reprogram your self-talk to no longer include these negative phrases. Here are the positive phrases you can replace them with:
Use “Can” Instead of “Can’t”–You can do anything you want to do. You can do anything you set your mind to do. It’s been proven over and over and over again. So say “can.” “I can be a writer” and “I can write this novel.”
Use “Want to” Instead of “Should” “Have to” or “Need to”–When you use the phrase “want to” you’re making a choice. It’s no longer being forced on you, you are choosing it. There is power in the phrase “want to” because it shows you have a desire to do something. So say “I want to be a writer” and “I want to write this novel.”
What toxic phrases are your removing from your self-talk? What are you replacing them with?
Today’s Challenge: Listen to the language you use as you speak about your writing. Make a list of all the toxic phrases you hear yourself saying. Next, cross each word off and write a positive replacement word next to it. For example, if you use the toxic phrase, “I can’t do it,” turn that around to, “I want to do it” or “I can do it.”